120 this or that questions for a quick, fun chat

This or that questions are the fastest way to get a chat moving. Each one is two options and a quick answer, so they suit text chat, where long questions can feel like homework.

Ask a few in a row, then pick the most interesting answer and ask why.

Food and drink

• Coffee or tea?
• Pizza or burgers?
• Sweet or savoury?
• Breakfast or dinner?
• Chocolate or vanilla?
• Cook at home or eat out?
• Spicy or mild?
• Pancakes or waffles?
• Tacos or sushi?
• Juice or smoothie?
• Cake or pie?
• Fries or salad?
• Popcorn or chips?
• Hot chocolate or iced coffee?
• Pasta or rice?
• Fruit or dessert?
• Street food or fine dining?
• Cheese board or dessert board?
• Brunch or lunch?
• Tea with milk or without?

Travel and places

• Beach or mountains?
• City break or road trip?
• Plane or train?
• Hotel or camping?
• Plan everything or go with the flow?
• Window seat or aisle seat?
• Summer holiday or winter holiday?
• Museum or theme park?
• Sunrise or sunset?
• Forest or desert?
• Travel alone or with friends?
• Big city or small town?
• Lake or sea?
• Backpack or suitcase?
• Pack early or pack last minute?
• Countryside or seaside?
• Old town or modern skyline?
• Hiking or sightseeing?
• Souvenirs or photos?
• Near or far?

Entertainment

• Films or series?
• Books or podcasts?
• Comedy or horror?
• Cinema or streaming at home?
• Board games or video games?
• Live music or festival?
• Marvel or DC?
• Reality TV or documentaries?
• Fiction or non-fiction?
• Old songs or new songs?
• Singing or dancing?
• Crossword or sudoku?
• Cartoons or anime?
• Headphones or speakers?
• Rewatch a favourite or try something new?
• Concert or theatre?
• Audiobook or paper book?
• Sci-fi or fantasy?
• Mystery or romance?
• Playlist or album?

Lifestyle

• Early bird or night owl?
• Cats or dogs?
• Texting or calling?
• Summer or winter?
• Big party or small dinner?
• Gym or outdoor run?
• Rainy day or sunny day?
• Stay in or go out?
• Tidy or creative mess?
• Shower in the morning or at night?
• Plan the week or take each day as it comes?
• Sneakers or boots?
• Jeans or joggers?
• Hot weather or cold weather?
• Handwritten notes or phone notes?
• Couch or armchair?
• Bath or shower?
• Candles or fairy lights?
• Alarm or no alarm on weekends?
• Plants or pets?

Fun and silly

• Fly or be invisible?
• Time travel to the past or the future?
• Talk to animals or speak every language?
• Pirate or ninja?
• Dragon or unicorn?
• Robot butler or personal chef?
• Live in a castle or a spaceship?
• Superhero or villain?
• Zombies or aliens?
• Never be hot again or never be cold again?
• Teleport or read minds?
• Giant cat or tiny elephant?
• Magic carpet or broomstick?
• Wizard or knight?
• Laugh at everything or cry at everything?
• Always sing or always rhyme?
• Be a famous chef or a famous musician?
• Pet penguin or pet parrot?
• Win a gold medal or an Oscar?
• Live underwater or in the clouds?

A little deeper

• Heart or head?
• Adventure or comfort?
• Money or time?
• Past or future?
• Few close friends or many acquaintances?
• Honest or diplomatic?
• Leader or team player?
• Routine or surprise?
• Big goals or small wins?
• Save or spend?
• Talk it out or think it over?
• Learn by doing or by reading?
• Change the world or change your town?
• Famous or anonymous?
• Freedom or security?
• Be early or be exactly on time?
• Ask for directions or figure it out?
• Remember everything or forget the bad things?
• Know the future or change the past?
• Start over or keep going?

How to turn quick answers into a real conversation

• Ask “why?” once in a while. Not after every answer, just the surprising ones.
• Look for matches and mismatches. “You picked mountains too? Where was the best view you have seen?”
• Take turns asking. It feels less like an interview.
• Know when to stop. When a topic takes off, leave the list and talk.

Try a round in your next random text chat. For longer questions, see 150 would you rather questions and 100 icebreaker questions.