120 get to know you questions (fun, deep and easy to answer)

Good get to know you questions are easy to answer and invite a story. The trick is to start light, listen, and let the other person’s answers tell you where to go next. The questions below are grouped from easy to deeper, so you can move down the list as the conversation warms up.

How to use them without it feeling like an interview

• Ask one question, then follow up on the answer before asking a new one.
• Answer your own question too. “Mine would be…” turns a quiz into a conversation.
• Pick questions that fit the moment. A work lunch and a late-night chat need different questions.
• Respect a short answer. If someone does not want to go into a topic, move on.

Easy opening questions

1. How is your day going so far?
2. What have you been up to this week?
3. What is keeping you busy at the moment?
4. Are you a morning person or a night person?
5. What did you have for breakfast?
6. Coffee, tea or neither?
7. What is the weather like where you are?
8. Have you watched anything good lately?
9. What kind of music are you into?
10. Do you have any plans for the weekend?
11. What is your favourite season?
12. What is the best thing that happened to you today?
13. Are you more of a planner or do you go with the flow?
14. Cats or dogs?
15. What is your go-to comfort food?

Fun questions

1. If you could have dinner with any fictional character, who would it be?
2. What is a skill you would love to have instantly?
3. What is the most unusual job you can imagine doing?
4. Which film would you want to live in for a day?
5. What is your karaoke song?
6. What is the strangest food you have ever tried?
7. If you won a free trip anywhere, where would you go?
8. What is your hidden talent?
9. What is the best board game or video game ever made?
10. What is a small thing people do that makes you irrationally happy?
11. If you had your own talk show, who would be your first guest?
12. What would you do with an extra hour every day?
13. What is the funniest thing you have seen online this week?
14. What trend do you secretly love?
15. What is the most interesting fact you know?
16. If you could only eat one cuisine forever, which would it be?
17. What is your favourite useless piece of trivia?
18. What would your superhero name be?
19. Which decade has the best music?
20. What is the best compliment you have ever received?

Questions about interests and hobbies

1. What do you do when you have a free afternoon?
2. What hobby have you always wanted to try?
3. What is something you could talk about for hours?
4. What is the last thing you learned just for fun?
5. Do you play any sports or follow a team?
6. What is your favourite book, or the last one you finished?
7. What kind of films or series do you love most?
8. Do you play any instruments, or wish you did?
9. Are you into cooking? What is your signature dish?
10. What podcasts, channels or creators do you follow?
11. Do you collect anything?
12. What games are you playing at the moment?
13. Do you prefer being outdoors or indoors?
14. What is a creative thing you enjoy, like drawing, writing or building?
15. What is a hobby you gave up but might go back to?
16. What is the best event, show or concert you have been to?
17. Do you like trying new restaurants or sticking to favourites?
18. What would you learn if you had a year off?
19. What is your favourite way to exercise, if any?
20. Which languages do you speak or want to learn?

Questions about travel and places

1. What is the best place you have ever visited?
2. Where is somewhere you would love to go but have not yet?
3. Mountains, beach or city?
4. What is the most beautiful view you have ever seen?
5. What is a dish you tried abroad and still think about?
6. Do you like planning trips or being spontaneous?
7. What is the longest journey you have ever taken?
8. Which country’s culture would you like to learn more about?
9. What is your favourite thing about where you grew up? (No need to say where.)
10. Would you rather travel alone or with friends?
11. What is a travel mistake you learned from?
12. Road trip, train or plane?
13. What is a place that surprised you?
14. Where would you live if you could live anywhere for a year?
15. What is the best souvenir you have ever brought home?

Questions about work, study and goals

1. What did you want to be when you were younger?
2. What do you enjoy most about what you do?
3. What is something you are working towards right now?
4. What was your favourite subject at school?
5. What is the best job you have ever had?
6. If money did not matter, what would you do all day?
7. What skill are you trying to improve?
8. Who has been a good mentor or role model for you?
9. What is an accomplishment you are quietly proud of?
10. What is a goal you want to reach this year?
11. Do you prefer working alone or in a team?
12. What is the most useful thing you have learned outside school?
13. What would your ideal workday look like?
14. What is a career you find fascinating, even if it is not for you?
15. What motivates you when things get hard?

Deeper get to know you questions

Use these once the conversation is going well. For more, see deep questions to ask.

1. What is something that has shaped who you are today?
2. What does a really good day look like for you?
3. What do you value most in the people close to you?
4. What is something you have changed your mind about?
5. What is a moment you felt really proud of yourself?
6. What are you most grateful for right now?
7. What is a fear you have worked through?
8. What does home mean to you?
9. What is the best lesson life has taught you so far?
10. Who knows you best, and why?
11. What is something you wish people asked you about?
12. What makes you feel most alive?
13. What is a dream you still hope to follow?
14. How do you recharge when you feel low?
15. What is one thing you would like to be better at?
16. What kind of person do you want to be in ten years?
17. What is a belief you hold strongly?
18. What small thing makes you feel cared for?
19. What is a risk you are glad you took?
20. What do you hope people remember about you?

Quick-fire questions

Answer fast, no explanations, then compare. There are 120 more in this or that questions.

1. Sunrise or sunset?
2. Books or films?
3. Sweet or salty?
4. Summer or winter?
5. Call or text?
6. Early or late?
7. City or countryside?
8. Save or spend?
9. Plan or improvise?
10. Stay in or go out?
11. Past or future?
12. Pancakes or waffles?
13. Sea or pool?
14. Comedy or drama?
15. Chocolate or vanilla?

Getting to know someone online

The same questions work in a random text chat or a video chat. Two extra rules help online: talk about interests and opinions rather than personal details such as your name, school, workplace or where you live, and do not feel you owe anyone an answer. If a conversation is not going anywhere, pressing Next is completely normal. Want a game instead? Try the 21 questions game.